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Saturday, October 15, 2011

Blog Action Day 2011 - The Foods of My Ancestors



[Editor's Note: I'm participating in Blog Action Day 2011 where the topic is Food - here is my blog post contribution to the conversation]

Food has always played a major role in my family's history, from more recent times and stretching back for hundreds of years. Documented stories exist of ancestors who left Germany and Ireland in search of reliable sources of food. With potato famines in Ireland, and political unrest in Germany and surrounding states, the lack of food was one of those "push" factors for migrating to America.

In more modern times, food was also difficult to find. My mother, Jacqueline Austin MacEntee, grew up in a large family with 11 siblings during the Great Depression in Jersey City, New Jersey. Each summer, she and the rest of her brothers and sisters who make their way up to a small town in the Catskills - Grahamsville, New York - to get out of the city and to help her grandparents grow the food they all consumed.

My family history is filled with stories of that magical time - the squabbles over food with those hungry mouths to feed, and how there were no "seconds" so you took as much as you could the first go-around! Also, how one chilly morning my great-grandmother decided to go berry picking wearing her fur coat and my great-grandfather, thinking she was a bear, almost shot her!

Food was also the focus of celebrations, as you can see in the photo above.  My mother would often tell the story of how her siblings tried to throw a cake for her Confirmation celebration out the window.

For me, growing up, food was ever-present, even when there were rough times and we had almost no money. I don't know how Mom did it with just me and my younger brother, but we never went hungry. I learned to cook around age 9 when my mother went to work and I was expected to have dinner on the table each night.  I am so glad that Mom taught me a skill that would serve me the rest of my life and allow me to also prepare celebratory meals for my own family and friends. As a tribute to her recipes, I started a food blog called And I Helped! which features not only Mom's recipes, but the ones enjoyed by me and my family.

Finally, just as food is a necessity for life, food also has played a major role in my own family history, and I suspect, in the history of most families. And I am grateful that as I research the lives of my ancestors, their stories continue to feed me, to feed my soul.

Photo: Confirmation Cake In Flight, abt. 1954, Jersey City, New Jersey. Photograph, property of Thomas MacEntee [Address withheld], Chicago, Illinois, 2011.

© 2011, copyright Thomas MacEntee

My Ancestors' Geneameme

What started over at Geniaus as The Ancestors' Geneameme is now part of Randy Seaver's Saturday Night Fun and Games over at Genea-Musings.  I thought I'd take a stab at the meme because it is a neat way for me to become re-acquainted with my genealogy database . . . and it is fun too!

The list should be annotated in the following manner:

Things you have already done or found: bold face type
Things you would like to do or find: italicize (colour optional)
Things you haven’t done or found and don’t care to: plain type
You are encouraged to add extra comments in brackets after each item

Which of these apply to you?

  1. Can name my 16 great-great-grandparents
  2. Can name over 50 direct ancestors [529 actually]
  3. Have photographs or portraits of my 8 great-grandparents [I have 6 of the 8 - missing John Vincent Slattery and Loretta D. Krom]
  4. Have an ancestor who was married more than three times
  5. Have an ancestor who was a bigamist
  6. Met all four of my grandparents
  7. Met one or more of my great-grandparents [My great-grandmother Therese McGinnes Austin died when I was 26 and had a big influence on my upbringing]
  8. Named a child after an ancestor
  9. Bear an ancestor's given name/s
  10. Have an ancestor from Great Britain or Ireland
  11. Have an ancestor from Asia
  12. Have an ancestor from Continental Europe
  13. Have an ancestor from Africa
  14. Have an ancestor who was an agricultural laborer
  15. Have an ancestor who had large land holdings
  16. Have an ancestor who was a holy man - minister, priest, rabbi [My 9th great-grandfather Johannes Putman was said to be "the son of a domine," domine being a minister in Holland; I also descend from Elder Joseph Crandall, founder of the Seventh Day Baptist Church in America]
  17. Have an ancestor who was a midwife
  18. Have an ancestor who was an author
  19. Have an ancestor with the surname Smith, Murphy or Jones [Valentine Smith d. 1780 was my 7th great-grandfather]
  20. Have an ancestor with the surname Wong, Kim, Suzuki or Ng
  21. Have an ancestor with a surname beginning with X
  22. Have an ancestor with a forename beginnining with Z [2nd great-grandmother Magdelena Zwicker]
  23. Have an ancestor born on 25th December [I was born on Christmas Day but I can't find an ancestor who shares my birthday!]
  24. Have an ancestor born on New Year's Day
  25. Have blue blood in your family lines
  26. Have a parent who was born in a country different from my country of birth
  27. Have a grandparent who was born in a country different from my country of birth
  28. Can trace a direct family line back to the eighteenth century
  29. Can trace a direct family line back to the seventeenth century or earlier
  30. Have seen copies of the signatures of some of my great-grandparents
  31. Have ancestors who signed their marriage certificate with an X
  32. Have a grandparent or earlier ancestor who went to university
  33. Have an ancestor who was convicted of a criminal offence
  34. Have an ancestor who was a victim of crime
  35. Have shared an ancestor's story online or in a magazine (Tell us where)
  36. Have published a family history online or in print (Details please)
  37. Have visited an ancestor's home from the 19th or earlier centuries [My 9th great-grandfather's house (Hugo Freer) still stands in New Paltz, New York - built around 1720].
  38. Still have an ancestor's home from the 19th or earlier centuries in the family [The above house is not in the family but is now maintained by a family association of which I am a member]
  39. Have a family bible from the 19th Century
  40. Have a pre-19th century family bible

© 2011, copyright Thomas MacEntee

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Update on Mom

Just a quick update on Mom's condition for friends and family. On my way back home from the Legacy Family Tree Cruise, we drove up to Margaretville, NY to visit Mom at the nursing home.

I actually was dreading this visit because back in May when I last saw her, she was bed-ridden, couldn't open her eyes and seemed very bloated. Imagine my surprise when she wasn't in bed but in her "geri-chair" (used for geriatric patients).

Not only did she look less bloated but occasionally she would open her beautiful blue eyes. My two aunts joined us and we spent about an hour just sitting there holding her hand, stroking her hair, massaging her shoulders and just plain "being there."

Just to be able to do this, to be in the moment, and so late in our Alzheimer's journey, was such a blessing.

© 2011, copyright Thomas MacEntee

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Gay Genealogists

Today, October 11th, has been designated as National Coming Out Day here in the United States and I thought it would be appropriate to have a "coming out" post for my readers and the genealogy community. For many of you, my being gay is not news. I haven't exactly tried hard to hide it - all the information is there on social media if you look for it. So why the big deal?

While I was on a recent cruise with almost 200 genealogists, dinner conversation would often migrate beyond dead ancestors to living family members. I participated in conversations about spouses, children and grand children. Sometimes the conversation would never get around to me and no one would ask if I had a spouse or children. Other times, the questions were a bit too direct and I just felt more comfortable stating that I had a family back home in Chicago and quickly changed the subject.

The fact is that I am gay and that I have a family. I've been with my partner George for over 11 years, the most fulfilling and sometimes difficult years of my life. We are very involved in each other's families, both being the oldest sons who take care of our parents. We don't have children and this is a deliberate choice we've made. George and I deal with the same issues that confront any other couple, any other person - making a living, building a career, caring for parents, loving our families, and trying to leave this earth a little bit better with both our words and our actions.

I've pretty much known about my homosexuality since I was in my mid-teens.  I didn't come out to my family until I was 23. But from then on it was more of a non-issue than an issue with my large family. I fully participate in life's events including celebrations as well as memorials.

I am not defined by my sexuality, so as I age, being gay is less a "big deal" and more of just who I am. What I do know is that there are many lesbians and gays involved with genealogy and family history. For many, this doesn't make sense since many LGBT folk don't have descendants. However, to me it makes perfect sense: gays and lesbians often have more time to devote to researching their ancestors as well as more disposable income to devote to resources for research.

So where am I going with this post? Simply stated, I'm gay and I have a family history, going both backwards and forwards in time.

I also believe that there are individuals on my family tree who were also gay, but at this time I'm divided about whether or not I should bring them "out of the closet." I strongly believe in self-identification of one's persona, whether it is beliefs, sexuality or other matters. I don't believe in "outting" someone - a person can and should speak for themselves. Yet the dead can't speak except through the records left behind. How do you, as a genealogist, handle documenting the lives of ancestors who may have been homosexuals?

So on National Coming Out Day, there's lots to ponder. But one truth rings true for me: I am who I am and with purpose and reason. There is a reason I am on this journey and the route that is laid out in front of me. And I wouldn't change that route for the world.

© 2011, copyright Thomas MacEntee